The Balance of Becoming: Between Building and Creating

Man becoming his authentic self.

Men build. Women create.

To me, these are not just archetypes—they’re energies. Foundational truths.The basis of balance in this universe.

Even in chaos, there is order. Even in imbalance, a strange kind of harmony.

When I sit with the questions that stretch beyond language—Questions about survival, sexuality, culture, and systems—I always come back to this dance between two:The positive and the negative.The masculine and the feminine. The structure and the spark.

But what happens when those forces don’t just interact—but integrate?

The power of Three. Three my number of creation. Of emergence. Of collaboration.

It is the space between what was and what will be—The becoming.

And so, for those of us who live outside prescribed boxes, those of us with layered identities—authentic, spiritual, alternative, resilient—not broken. Be the blueprint and become the breakthrough.

I think about how society often projects hypersexuality onto marginalized groups—rooting their worth in survival narratives shaped by trauma. They play the role of victim and villian. Represenitng the parellel dimension to their reality. But sexuality, service work, addiction, and suppression—those are not identities. They are responses. They are stories rooted in systems that profit off pain.

And yet—Within those stories are powerful people. People who are learning, over time, that you are not what happened to you. You are what you create from it.

When you begin to understand the intersectionality of your being—how race, gender, desire, history, and imagination meet within you, you stop fragmenting yourself just to fit.

You start embodying the whole.

You walk into a room not just as a man or a woman, not just as Black or brown or queer or trans or none of the above. You walk in aware of how you are perceived—and aware of how you choose to move anyway.

That’s confidence. That’s alignment.That’s becoming by being.

People say, “Fake it ‘til you make it.” But I say: Embody what you are becoming.

Because in the act of being fully present, you become exactly who you were designed to be.

Prompt for You:

Where in your life have you been told to perform rather than embody? What would change if you moved with full awareness of your intersectional power?